Debra and I sometimes laugh that our life looks a bit like a real life Bob Hearts Abishola. There’s the obvious part. An inter cultural, inter racial marriage that doesn’t fit the neat boxes people like to put couples into. Different backgrounds, different upbringings, different perspectives in some areas, but shared values, shared humour and a deep respect for one another. The differences exist, but they are not the story. Love is. Then there’s the weight loss angle. When we met, I was very ove