Top tip: if you’re polyamorous, do NOT go to your monogamous friends for relationship advice. 99% of the time, they will view your situation through a mononormative lens and blame polyamory for all the problems you experiencing, or express confusion about why you are “putting yourself through this” when it would be “so much easier” to just go back to monogamy. There are some monogamous people who are open minded enough to think beyond such a narrow world view where all your problems could be fix